It goes without saying that there are many differences in people and that in those differences are often our strengths. Unfortunately, too often those strengths are not utilized because we expect the other person to be like us, and get into unnecessary conflicts, expressed and unexpressed, over those differences. How can different people get along better at work and at home maximizing the strengths of both?
    Often the answer is in understanding personality differences and communicating with other people based upon their dominant driving forces. While personality differences are by no means the only difference in people, it is the one that we often have the best opportunity to understand quickly and to then manage our own behavior with other people from that knowledge. Like many things in life, it isn’t always easy, but it is often quite simple.
    Personality as a discipline is not new. What is more recent is how businesses are utilizing personality-profiling tools in the workplace, especially in team building. The best teams are not people who are similar, but people who are different, especially related to personality. Too often, however, teams fail to capitalize on those differences, having unnecessary conflict, and poor results.
    There are four dominant personalities, S, A, U and C, and each have different driving forces, communication styles and strengths. While everyone has the four areas of personality, there is great variety in the dominance or weakness of those areas and in the resultant behavior. The four different personality types, and the most likely combinations are:

S Personalities

    The “S” person is driven by Specifics, and is process and methodology oriented. This is the person who does not generalize who justifies with facts, figures, numbers and specifics. Most likely you know someone like this who, when asked what time it is answers, “5:18,” and when questioned why they did not just say about 5:15 or 5:20 responds, “because it is 5:18!” To work best with this style, do not generalize. Communicate in specifics and use data to prove your point.

A Personalities

    The “A” person is driven by Action, to get things done quickly, even if it isn’t the right things! This personality is also bottom line and results oriented, as well as task oriented. This personality is often in a hurry and is usually late! Getting one more thing done too often gets in the way of being exactly on time. This is the person who becomes impatient in meetings that aren’t going anywhere, and who loves teamwork if they are in charge of the team! To work best with this person get to the point quickly. They will ask for detail if they want it.

U Personalities

    The “U” person is driven by Understanding, both figuring things out as well as being understood. This person is intuitive, visionary and change oriented. This person does not need data to figure things out or to justify, and is comfortable with ambiguity. This is the person who talks their thoughts out loud, figuring it out as they go, often confusing others who think they have made a decision! This is also the one who others hear as argumentative, “trying to get their way,” because they take too much responsibility for explaining it better so others will get it! This is the person who (hopefully) spends a lot of time apologizing because they are better at telling others what they think than they are at listening. To work best with this style, allow time for processing ideas and thinking out loud. Also, expect them to question, challenge and disagree.

C Personalities

    The “C” person is driven by Connection and who is group, relationship and team-oriented. This person is the natural team player, the one that others think of as nice, friendly and easy to get along with. This is the person who is people oriented, who really cares what other people think and is democratic and diplomatic in their dealings with others. This is also the one who does not deal easily with conflict and confrontation, specifically because they are so people oriented that they do not want to tell others what they might not want to hear! This style needs you to check in with them often, so they know that they are ok with you. Remember, connection is a need for them, not just a want. Make sure they are on teams.
    There are many different combinations of personality. Some common combinations are:
    The “S/A” person, the one who is both “Specifics” and “Action” oriented. This can be a strength area when the individual is predictable but not rigid and authoritative, but not authoritarian. Unfortunately, too often managers have this profile, and their strength areas are so strong that they appear to others as the “know- it-all bureaucrats,” the ones who tell others not just what to do but how to do it, to the extreme. Managers should avoid this behavior and not be overly prescriptive, so that the spirit and talent of others is not lost.
    The “A/U” person the one who is both independent and self-directed and therefore cannot be controlled. This is the rebel, the one who will push and challenge the system. This is the individual who has the hardest time with teamwork, and yet who is too often allowed to run rampant, creating not just teamwork challenges but morale problems as well. This person is best working with a small group of hard driving people in an entrepreneurial manner. They are also likely to start their own businesses, and should hire some “S” people.
    The “A/C” person is the one who is a good profile for talent management, for this is the person who is good at getting results working with and through other people. If you hire talent and let them soar, it should not matter “how” something is done, unless the work is legal or regulatory in nature.
    The “S/C” person is the one who is good with specifics and processes and who is also good working with others. This profile is common in human resource positions for traditionally human resources involves employee relations, “C” work, and regulatory and legal activities, “S” work.

It’s in the SAUCE!™

    The best teams include a combination of different personalities, playing to their strengths and depending on others for their weaker areas. Communicating effectively and maximizing the strengths of these different personalities is the key to teamwork and results. While this is not always easy, by understanding differences and communicating with others based on their dominant style, good results and relationships can be accomplished.

Patti Fralix, author of the book “How to Thrive in Spite of Mess, Stress and Less,” and founder and president of The Fralix Group, Inc., a leadership excellence firm based in Raleigh, NC.For more information, please contact her at pfralix@fralixgroup.com.